In the morning, we will be just fine but now we are going to say everything that is on our minds! This is dangerous territory to tread but we do so often. In the heat of an argument, many things we can not take back but why do we go that far at all? The overall thought is to say something that the other will consider as hurtful, perhaps to the point of tears and to end the argument.

 It escalates into a whirlwind of uneventful discussion and of course someone storms off before it gets out of hand. What is an example of a poorly chosen word used during an argument? We enjoy throwing out the word, “BITCH” to get our point across. You are not making any point using the word bitch, for it is nothing more than a female dog. Now stop and look again at the woman you just phrased this to in the heat of your argument, perhaps she is your wife? The mother of your child(ren) and at that very moment you have already reduced her down to an animal; a household pet.

 When you call your woman, wife or friend anything aside from her name in an argument, such things are not an easy fix with, “I am sorry” and so you will need to take this one as your mistake, walk away and allow the situation to cool down. Do not argue and bring up a past relationship by saying, “I can not stand you, I wish that I stayed with her!” This will put you “in the wrong” and single at times.

 Though more than just the men can make a grave mistake during an argument. Women too have their own way with words that will always strike that chord within many men. Short jabs include something we entrusted with you from our past; that still upset us to this day. It is true when they say, “Do not share your past so freely, if you do not want it thrown in your face later during an argument.” The moment a man or woman feels threatened or hurt by your choice of words in an argument, they will resort to the “short jab” and it is rather effective!

 Arguments, though unwanted are common and it is up to each of us to breathe and listen. The argument at times is easily avoided by actively listening and not talking over the other person. Showing that appreciation for one another is the best form of respect given and it makes for a healthier lifestyle.

For more, ask Daym.