Most men come to realize that your nagging is part of your communication, though it is usually followed up by an unnecessary argument. Perhaps you do not consider it nagging, you see it as a way to get your point across, all while he just wants to come home after a long day and relax.

 Of course this is not to say that you do not deserve a moment or two of relaxation but we are going to focus this particular blog entry, on your man at home. How often do you notice the things that he does for your and the children? Are you only quick to speak when something is not right, or do you find yourself saying, “I appreciate what you do and I know that you are trying”

 We get it!

 Women are known for holding the household down in MORE ways than just one. Women fail to get the deserved recognition for doing so and some of you do not care for the recognition at all because you are doing what you know is important; maintaining stability and a sense of self. So why should a man get a “Thank You” at all? Why should a man get any second of recognition for doing his job?

 Babygirl, he is the small percentage that represents a larger scale of those who FAIL MISERABLY at doing their part in any sense of the word. Most men will come home, kick their shoes off and expect  dinner, a remote control and some loving later, for this is their routine.

 Fortunately enough, you have a man willing to come home after an 8 or 15 hour day, cook, clean, care for you, the kids and do his damn best to put on an awe-inspiring performance in the bedroom that leaves you breathless by sunrise! 

 Needless to say, THIS man deserves recognition!

Being that I know many of my readers all too well, most of you women are sitting at your computers, laptops and or on your cellphones reading this very blog and saying to yourselves, “WHERE IS THIS MAN?”

 He is everywhere and yes, worldwide! Do not allow YOUR expectations to blind you to the fact that this man is the one you pass by everyday and do not think twice about because he does not fit YOUR description of what you would like in your future man.

 Your expectations need not be lowered to find this man but unless you wield the sword of perfection, perhaps you should not pass up possibility! The man at the laundromat, you passed him up because of his job? REALLY??

 All for…….?

Oh yes, your local pretty boy who every woman gets to share with you on the nights when he chooses NOT to be with you, that’s right!

 You passed up, the man waiting at the bus stop who waves at you daily as you head off to work.

All for……?

 The man driving the nice expensive car from the club who forgot your name the following morning. He does not respond to your texts and honestly, you will see him in the SAME club a few weeks later acting rather nonchalant when you catch up with him.

 This is not to say the guy from the laundromat is not dead weight to you and your future; or the man at the bus stop will never try to rob you blind but it is to point out that while you are climbing over every rock and pebble to conquer the mountain, you only get to the top to find that it was not all you had expected.

 If men want no more than to have women in our lives; do not try to FORCE us to settle down with you, for it will never happen. We may talk a great game during the conversation but ultimately if we feel a want to play the field, you will become part of our field and all the signs are clearly marked, IF you are paying attention.

 Your man at home wants you to be there and based on this man, he will focus his strengths around your personality and willingness to explore MORE! If he is the partying type and ensures you are with him, he has drawn you INTO his life and though you will need to deal with what comes after a few drinks too many, this is a choice.

 If he is a man of God and you are going to church for THIS MAN, stop and find YOU! Religion is serious and you need to find God in you before man. Do not start something for all the wrong reasons; failure to support a healthy spiritual relationship, “however you may choose to do so” will catch up to you in more ways than one.

 If this man is into sports, I hope you have a team in common. There is a sport for every season and if you did not walk into this madhouse prepared, you will sit the sidelines finding yourself complaining about any and everything under the sun. If this man is a video game fanatic; you need not share his passion but find yourself a QUICK hobby if you would like for this relationship to work. Some women actually join in on the fun and make an attempt at understanding the game, wether sports or video and this strengthens the bond between the two.

 You may not be a Master Chef in the kitchen but the man in your life can truly cook like one. On your days off, show him that you appreciate his hard work and instead of watching every drama show on T.V, watch food network and see what you can try a few times over until you perfect it.

Your man takes notice to everything that you do; he may not say much about it but he will take notice of it. If you do not KNOW this man….I repeat…

IF YOU DO NOT KNOW THIS MAN

IF YOU DO NOT KNOW THIS MAN…..

 This man won’t be YOUR man for long. As you need for him to learn you, you need to learn and better understand him. Go the extra mile and seek out his nature, appreciate his habits “if tolerable” and focus your attention on the big picture over the pair of socks that he left.

 In the end you will come to realize there is MORE to this man than meets the eye and you can appreciate that you have a damn good man at home!

For more, ask Daym!