Every man wants to be THAT MAN to commit you into something that you probably never truly wanted. He wants to wine and dine you, take you on trips around the world and back, set you up in a home away from home all for the small price of your love, time and tender affection but not once did he stop to think that you made it perfectly clear that you are, “Single by choice and happy by design.”

 Every woman wants to pick up the pieces of your broken heart, to show you that SHE is nothing like the others. She wants to instill that love is real and can be found where you least expect it, only if you open your mind and heart by letting her in to show you. She wants to be your everything without you asking; she is clear that this task will not be easy but she is more than willing to climb any mountain, leap every hurdle and deal with unforseen drama just to be with you but not once did she stop to think that you are, “Single by choice and happy by design.”

 So what is the easiest way to remind someone they need to live and let be, without destroying their feelings? You are already clear that they want to be with you as MORE than just friends but you have given every warning possible for them not to involve their feelings too deep, for it will be nothing more than disappointment on their end when it is all said and done.

 THIS STARTS WITH YOU!!

It takes more than a reminder at times of the status that you wish to keep, you need to make sure that you are not sending off mixed signals. If the person is already emotionally attached, perhaps sleeping with them is NOT the best choice of action. The individual(s) who would like to change your thoughts about being in a relationship are usually strong willed on making one happen and with you. They do not let up easy and taking no for an answer is out of the question; they are dedicated!

 You will find gifts at your door or job, they will make many offers to take you out and do special favors all in the name of YOU! The problem is clear, though we may say no, weakness is often inevitable. We find ourselves bound to time, physical attraction without mental stimulation and of course the ability to simply let go and give in. Now let us read about the accident waiting to happen.

 If a relationship is FORCED, it is bound to fail. There exists no solid foundation from which to build and happiness is usually created in the bedroom. (Take notice how happiness does not exist in this relationship at all; it needs to be created.) This is what you had wanted all along, correct? To start a relationship with someone who made it painfully clear, relationships do not work out in their favor?

 Only you know if you can handle being in a relationship; for being committed is not for everyone.

  In a relationship you have, expectations, controversy, conclusions, betrayal, disappointment, lust, arguments, boredom, dedication, denial, love, desire, communication, sacrifice, repetition, happiness, laughter, abuse, pain, addiction, fun, change and perseverance; to name a few. All of these  found on one large mental and physical roller coaster is too much for one person to handle, so they do not bother even going into a relationship.

 This is not to say that being single is the answer to all problems. If there is a life that you need to live, be it for yourself or your child(ren) then by all means, live that life. If the picture does not include someone else, do not place anyone there! If you were single long enough and you’ve exhausted all that you needed to do in the single life, do not think that someone was waiting on you to make a life decision. If you are fortunate enough to get someone worthwhile, a few days out in your search for companionship….Consider yourself in good standings, there are millions who have searched for months and even YEARS; still coming up with disappointment.

 Perhaps you are in a dead-end relationship RIGHT NOW, does this mean once it comes to an end you need to have a replacement? I do not recommend that route but many of you are not capable of being alone. For years, all you have ever known was the companionship of someone just being there. This does not mean that you will not be able to handle being alone but it might just be a bit more difficult for you to adjust to initially.

 Do not concern yourself with someone else, if you are constantly failing with finding yourself. Take the time necessary to pack and pick up the pieces along the way, for in the end you just might discover a brighter, better YOU and if nothing else you just might truly be, “Single by choice; happy by design.”

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