How hard is it for you to step OUT from the shadows of someone who NEVER appreciated you? How many years have you devoted your unconditional love for someone who never quite learned EXACTLY how to reciprocate that same type of love? Are you ready to be, RENEWED?

 It is an amazing feeling to finally find your soulmate. Someone who you honestly believe will truly be right by your side through everything. This person was quick to explain in detail, all of the things they are willing to do over the next few weeks, months and even years to express their gratitude for both who and how you are.

 In your mind, you clearly heard all of this before but being that we all differ, once again you are willing to give someone the chance to prove all of these claims to you. Each passing day is better than the day previous and you are loving this person for sticking to their word and slowly the guard you had built is finally starting to come down.

 You ask yourself, “Wow, does this person honestly exist right before my own eyes?” They are fulfilling every word spoken and for once, I finally feel appreciated! What happens next was either expected or you never seen it coming.

 Months to years later, they change without notice. Now that your walls have completely been destroyed, they take advantage of this OPEN state that you are in and why? 

 When most women love; you love with all that you have, everything that you are and anything that you are willing to give. This leaves you vulnerable and unfortunately for some of you, a target for the ignorance of someone else; which in this case is the person in your life.

 So now they are testing you, trying to see how far they can go. The warnings of you leaving or revolving door of you leaving and allowing them back in your life was all they truly needed to continue down their vicious cycle of treating you as if your worth is beneath them.

 How long CAN you?….
How long WILL you?….
 
 Put up with and makes excuses as to why you are still in this relationship?

 Some say it is for the children; are you sure? There is nothing in their developmental stages that screams; 

 “Please mommy, can we listen to and witness more of the verbal, mental and or physical abuse that you receive?” 

 “We beg of you mommy to have us comfort you every week while this individual steps out on you to be with  another”

 “Mommy can you be sure to tell us daily that everything is going to be ok as you tuck us in at night, this  way we are prepared for the same routine tomorrow?”

 This does not apply to every situation. What of the women without children, who do you answer to if at all? Who comforts you when the person in your life no longer cares to do so?

 It is true that you can not be everything to and for everyone at once but you DAMN sure can be and mean the world to YOURSELF!

 Now let me RENEW who you ARE!

For a moment, you are honestly happy! 

(scenario) You wake to a morning without drama, no wondering why you are in a relationship with someone who is supposed to be next to you when you rise and they are NOT there. Note: This is not because they fell asleep in another room or work 3rd shift.

(scenario) You are out with some of your close friends who have been there for you through it all; rain or shine without reserve. For once at happy hour over drinks, your story does NOT include someone who fails to do right by you but now it is a story of progress!

 The feeling of walking into an empty house is no longer the feeling of being alone in an empty house. Understand, to be able to FIND YOU all over again is just the beginning. When you FINALLY have a piece of mind at the end of the day; you walk into that same plathai cupped by a RENEWED YOU and it is FILLED with peace on a consistent basis. 

(I hear that glass of wine calling your name)

“For ANYONE who refuses to do better by you; you are better off without THEM!”

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