“Woman, all you ever do is complain!”

 Everyday, all I hear from your mouth is the following, “Man, can you pick up your damn socks? Can you wash A dish?… Can you do the laundry?…How about ironing your own shirts?…. Ever thought about cleaning both AROUND and inside of the toilet after YOURSELF?….That film collecting in the bathtub is non-existent to you because I clean up after you!!!…blah, blah, blah

” Woman, this is why I have YOU around!!

 Look at all you women reading this rolling your eyes! Damn shame how I can actually see YOU through your own screen huh? 😉

 What we as men need to ask, “Are we in THIS argument and if so, why?” How is your home a happy and well-rounded one, when the two of you fail to agree on anything at all? So perhaps she takes the laundry one week, can you not do the same the following week?

 Great, she cooked dinner tonight! Maybe later that week you pick up the cooking slack and or take her out so that she can relax? Perhaps you can not come home with a bouquet of her favorite flowers; nor any gifts due to funds being light but keep in mind, pouring her a drink and drawing her bath water to wash her down comes at NO cost to you.

 Having this woman lay upon your chest, while you massage her scalp will not defeat the purpose of your day. It is obvious the two of you would rather NOT discuss what your day was like and so with the silence and loving company of one another; you find other ways to de-stress that do not include a social network, text messages and or DARE I TYPE IT?!?!……… TELEVISION!

 (Something tells me that when the two of you first met, you did not USE a TV to attract the other. I will just take a wild shot in the dark with that thought…….)

 Ladies, it is not just the MEN who are at fault for the reason behind why the two of you argue so often!!

 (Hey, which one of you just rolled your eyes and said, “Oh here we go?”)

 DO NOT FORGET TO APPRECIATE HIM!

 Is he assisting with the household and the bills? Is he helping to raise children that he is not the biological Father of? Does this man try to take you to new and exciting places, WHEN HE CAN? Does this man compromise to meet your needs? Does he at least MEET you halfway, even if it is not always?

 This would mean that he is not perfect but at least he is making an attempt at understanding. Maybe he is NOT as well off as your last experience. Perhaps all of your expectations of this man are not being met but where the holes do exist, he seems to fill.

Does this mean that he deserves a pat on the back everyday because he is doing his “job”? No!

 It is ok for you to just STOP; allow this man to love you! What you do as women and what we as men go through differs in various ways. 

When you need for us to be understanding, we tend to fail…….

 Where we need for you to just STOP; you tend to fail…….

 The fight to be right ALL OF THE TIME is an ongoing battle but we can control it, if we choose to. I direct this to both parties involved, regardless what type of relationship that you are in. When it is good, it is GREAT but when it fails we are ready to throw in the towel and call it quits all because we honestly believe the grass is greener on the other side.

That is no more than a little bit of  Fertilizer and Maintenance on their part! If you play YOUR PART, you too can have your own backyard just as green if not BETTER!

 If all you do is fight, seeking counsel from an outside source (not your momma, her sister, your boys, her girls or some social network) would be in your best interests. The other party may not agree to the counseling because they feel that nothing is wrong with THEM. This is when you need to sit back and truly look at your life and the role that you play in this destructive relationship.

 “At times we need to LET GO, just to HOLD ON  to our Sanity” – Daymon S. Patterson

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