How often have you heard these words? It is similar to a post dated check written for the month of “Neveruary” though you hold on to the thought that HE will be leaving HER for YOU.
Is it his unavailability that interests you? Perhaps it is that he is in a relationship that you now consider this man, “A Good Catch”?
Wait, is it because he is married and you simply hope for something with someone who is already spoken for; this way you do not have to deal with the commitment of it all?
You can be with someone without making any direct changes in your life. This Fantasy Island allows you to do as you so desire all while reminding HIM that he should not be upset because he too already has someone in his life? Oh what a tangled web some of you weave in the art of deception.
Now that you have co-signed to being the “other woman” you would like the perks that come with this new position, correct? The perks that you heard so much about, so let us see.
If you put up with his wife verbally whooping your backside, the open threats in public all for HER husband to call, text and or stop by all to say, “Don’t mind her, she will be out of our lives shortly”, you now seek your consolation prize which would be……
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Anonymous Woman Writes:
Just want other women to NOT do this. I was friends with a married guy for a while. He always complained that he was unhappy. We started hooking up and then emotions got in the way.
After a year, he left his wife but went back a few months later. He said, she was threatening him and once he got everything straightened out, he would be back. A few months went by and I got disgusted with waiting. He harassed me every day and begged to be back in my life. I finally gave in and he left her again.
Three months go by and I find he is texting another woman and I throw him out. Where do you think he went?? Yep, back to his wife. He said, he has no where else to go. He wants to be with me. And we continue to see each other, even though I am nervous about the whole thing.
One day, I ask him to come back and he tells me next month. His wife was having financial problems. In the mean time, I find out I’m pregnant. And yes, he is the daddy. I need to back this up a little. He has always told me that he wanted to have a baby with me. And when I first thought I was pregnant he said, he wants me to have the baby.
Ok, now that we confirm that I really am pregnant, he stops calling me. So, I just wait and a week later he calls and tells me to have an abortion. I tell him no, that I’m not. Another week goes by and I hear from him again. He wants to come to my ultrasound appointment.
I’m unsure of this, but I decide I’m not gonna be that mean. We go and we fight in the waiting room. So, they start the ultrasound and we hear the heartbeat. I look over and yes, he is crying. I’m sitting there all confused.
We get back to my place and he tells me I have to have an abortion again. Even more confused at this point. I tell him no and he needs to leave. He eventually calls me again and tells me he wants me to keep the baby. But, he isn’t telling his wife. And I better not take him to court for child support. And he will come and see his child when he can.
I’m not sure how all this is gonna work for me and MY child?? But, I’m leaning toward, child support will be paid and the court will tell him when you can see your child.
See ladies!!! It’s all fun and games until HE is gonna get hurt. He doesn’t care about you or in my case, his own flesh and blood. He loves his wife more then anything. He will never leave her. Don’t fall for their smooth words and sob stories. They don’t leave and I don’t care at this point, cause I don’t want him back. His true colors have come out!!! Stay away from the married ones!!!!
From Daym: Thanks for sharing your story.